Things are pretty good, over all. I tried the dating thing a while back, got bored (poor bast@ards). Now I am finding contentment on my own.

I have never been a single adult before. Its not all terrible, I have to say. I think it has been very, very good for me to learn how to do this; I never even realized how much I could grow. I can now see the importance of living through this stage in human development.

The last time I was set off was when my X had to have spinal surgery. I bounced back within 2 days. It never goes as deep or lasts as long - it was a blip. I even had a phone convo with him today that, while a bit heated/strained, accomplished some real co-parenting things. So, good on me \:\) And look, ma, no spinning!! \:\) \:\)

I hope that your wife is someone who you can talk with when you are having difficulty, as well as someone outside of the sitch...
It is important to experience those waves; I think that many people who go into a new R end up burying those emotions, and they come out in much worse ways later on. You have a big challenge to get through the process while also having someone there to lean on (you would think it would be easier, huh? But it can become a crutch).

Keep growing...