Meant to post earlier but busy day. Had an odd experience in her car this a.m. I dropped mine off for service, she drove me back to house. Had an "R" talk - can't seem to stop them. She got very mad, unloaded, and then seemed a bit better. We sat in the driveway for a couple minutes, and I basically told her that I understood, didn't accept -- all the stuff that's upthread. To disengage, I thought I'd give her a compliment, but not a "husbandly" compliment, even after the previous nite's engagement.
So I said, Whatever happens, you're a great woman and people recognize that. I'm not great. Tear. Look at what I'm doing. Tear.
Then the odd thing -- she then said, "And look what YOU'RE doing. I would never do that."
It sort of hung there in the air, so I broke contact (get out first!) and with a "have a great day" sent her on her way.
But that sentence -- look what you're doing, I would never do that. Can't figure out if that's a good sentence or a bad one. Is it recognition of the DBing or rejection of it?
