Mrs. H, Everything in the home is joint, unless it was a gift and specifically given to you or JA. The ladders...one for him and one for you. The same goes for anything else that was purchased after the two of you were married.
Well, I'm not going to say let's celebrate because it wasn't what you had hoped for, but I will say this, now, your new life will begin and you will become stronger and he will not be able to bully you any longer. You have absolutely nothing to worry about w/him now. His threats will become idle chatter in time.
I do hope you are okay.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
