Thanks guys. Oh so much to learn and who better to learn from than from a bunch of men. \:\) I swear I have so much to learn. I read the book "Why Men Love Bitches" - I know bad title, but great book!! It really is all about standing up for myself. The book talks about keeping my dignity and I think I have lost that along the way going along with H's program for so long. Glad to find this site.