Newly Seperated - What To Do?

[Uncool Cat]

Thanks for the advice puppy. This is something I'm definately going to discuss with my coach. Here's why I'm a little hesitant about the housework and moving back in.

There's always two points of view. I feel like my W would say I'm lazy around the house. Also, she is the quiet less outgoing of the two of us. I'm the outgoing one with the tendancy to yell. In many ways stiffining up, moving back home, and laying off all the chores would be the easy thing for me to do.

I have a tendancy to wear my heart on my sleave. When I went to "the other councelor" I found out that she was attracted to me because of my sensativity, but at that point it was driving her crazy. I can be this walking contradiction which I'm sure is hard to live with.

I'm a 6'7" ex college basketball player. Yet I also majored in English (I know a poem or two). I used to think this made me pretty attractive to women. Now it just seems to get in the way. There are times when I'm a man and I'm angry, but the times that seem to drive her the most crazy are when I cry in front of her etc. - something she never does in front of me - not even when times were good.

I don't know. I'm just blabbering at this point.

Also, I'm hesitating about moving home because almost everyone except my best friend (who has gone through this and remarried his wife), and my coach have told me that moving back in something I should think about. One of the things the DR said was that sometimes the logical thing doesn't achieve the goal you wanted.

I do appreciate all the responses. I'm grateful for this place.