Vicky, this is how I put it to another poster back in my "Chocolateeyes" days, about the way it was put to me by the guy who was helping me: Cadesmom,
Taking care of my boys -- and continuing to be the best dad I can be to D20 and D18 -- has been, and will continue to be, my priority. Followed by being the best "Choc" I can be.
NOP told me something very early on in this, on a night when I was feeling totally overwhelmed by how LONG this was going to take, and in one of my self-pitying, "I can't do this" moods. He said "if you do what God is asking you to do in any given situation, on any given day, and in any given decision, and push thru it, one at a time, then that's all you can do and you will have done the right thing."
That was awesome advice. I used to operate from a standpoint of "How will Mrs. Choc. react to this? How pissed off will she be, and then how miserable will that make ME feel?"
Now, I go by "What is the RIGHT thing to do here?"
