1) Most women who leave their husbands have been working on a "soft place to fall." I'd be highly surprised if their wasn't at least a strong emotional attachment to another man there somewhere.
2) Most wayward spouses -- and nearly ALL wayward women -- have an enabling friend, usually a girlfriend, and maybe more than one that they surround themselves with. Has she cut off or pulled back on her usual relationships with friends and family, and gravitated toward a new small circle like this?
3) You shouldn't have moved out of your house, and I'd strongly advise you to consider moving back in.
4) You seem to be a bit of a "pleaser" and a "Nice Guy." I recognize them because I'm off-the-charts in this regard, too. Would it be safe to say that it would be a "180" for you to stand your ground a little here, and not appease your wife?
5) I don't like the bust-your-ass around the house advice. It rarely works, most people do it for the wrong reasons (you should do it if you haven't historically pulled your fair share, and because it's the "right thing to do" -- NOT to get a reaction out of your wife), and if anything, it makes you appear WEAK to the walkaway spouse. I do like small acts of kindness (washing her car for her as a surprise, covering her with a blanket if she falls asleep on the couch while you're visiting, etc.), but NOT Mr. Housekeeper.
