What can I say? Like Doc, I wish my wife had a friend like you.
I think it would help if you thought clearly about the issue of judging. The reason I say this is that your friend needs to know you love her, yet cannot endorse or agree with her course of action,
It's clear that you have aleady made a few judgements: leaving her husband without trying to work on the marriage is wrongm, having and affair is wrong.
What she desperately wants now is a "permission giver".
