Based on everything you said, I think emotional detachment would be a good thing for you. You are still emotionally very tied up in her (naturally), and that is causing you much pain, and now anger.
She is still able to push your buttons, and she knows it. You need to take those buttons away from her. You need to take a lot of things away from her.
Hang in there, stay strong for those precious kids. Be proud for taking the high road. You didn't ask for any of this, but you are handling it well regardless.
SF
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
