I just hate the feeling that creeps in that says "Maybe you shouldn't have told him you don't want to talk to him. He might think that I never want to talk to him again, even if he breaks it off from OW".
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PDT- after you confronted your W with her A, how long did it take for her to come back to you?
Belle,
You didn't tell him you don't want to talk to him; you told him you don't want to talk to him so long as he's having an affair. Big difference, and it's an honorable stand to take, and one that fits YOUR personal integrity.
I first asked my wife if there was someone else, when I had some suspicions, in mid-May of 2007. I confronted her once I had proof on May 27th. I re-confronted at the 60-day mark, insisting at LEAST that -- if she wasn't going to end her affair -- that she at LEAST stop lying about it to her parents and to our adult daughters, and accusing ME of being paranoid. (That worked to stop the lies, for the most part).
She still refused to end it, and so about two weeks after that -- in late-July -- I had her served at work with divorce papers.
She broke down one month later -- 3 months after I first confronted her with proof of her affair -- and begged me to take her back.
