I don't know, XW sounds kind of immature... and this not eating and anxiety meds... ugh!!!

Also, if she had a difficult time being married without children in the picture, I would be concerned about problems that could arise if you were to have children. Kids can add huge stress to marriage, would additional problems cause her to stray and flee from the marriage again? I would be really hesitant to reconnect with her if I were you.

From everything you've described your GF sounds much more mature and possibly more emotionally "together." These would be better qualities to have in building a long-term relationship.

I may be wrong and guessing here.... but whatever you do, do not reconnect with XW because she's a "damsel in distress" and needs "saving." That would be a huge mistake.

P.s. you wrote: >>her main motivation for walking away is she felt I didn't love her and didn't want me to make the first move.<<

Yeah right..... you want to buy a bridge?



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