Please please need some advice about "OM"

[kat727]

While I was still working to save our marriage, no I didn't talk about it. Now that it is over, it is like letting off steam. I had held it all in for so long, only a couple people knew the real story, not the one he was telling.

I was ashamed too. i felt like I wasn't good enough to keep my H. But you know what, after he filed, my Dad told me that he had a couple people come and tell him that my H was with someone else at such and such a place!! Chances are that he was rarely faithful. After his first affair 17 years ago, he never wanted to talk about it or address why/how it happened. It lasted for 2 years. Needless to say, I never really got over it and never fully trusted him again.

I don't need someone like that in my life. He went away because he wasn't good enough for me, not the other way around(like I felt and thought). I am worthy of being loved and respected and if H couldn't do it than good riddance. I think you should start looking at it the same way.

kat