In desperate need of advice, separation looming!

[2gthrButApart]

"hay dads cooking dinner, right on"

I think that's awesome! But maybe you can incorporate your W into the event. Teach her how to cook. Say hey, since I'm getting dinner ready, can you help me by getting the boys ready for dinner/ ready for bed/ sign their HW, or I'm tired can you help me do the dishes....something to help her feel needed, show appreciation for the things she does do.
If I don't feel appreciated I can feel resentful, and feel like what's the point in even trying.

Maybe she thinks you can do it all without her, so what's the point in being around. I know as a woman, I like when I feel wanted or needed by my H. What have you got to lose in trying?

If what you're doing isn't working, try something different.