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Originally Posted By: Art_Pl
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The point is that the only thing that I can do is turn away and see her as little as possible.
Thank you for being with me


Now your getting it! This sucks but it is the starting point for you!

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this sucks and hurts a lot, but i will do this

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Art,

It WILL get better one way or the other...

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No. Hell no.

Nothing good can come of it.

1) If you show up and beat his ass, you go to jail and it just hurts you in the long run.

2) If you show up and DON'T beat his ass, then he knows he is off the hook (so to speak).

Right now as far as he knows there might be a beating waiting for him around every corner. Let him sweat. \:\)


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Guys,
thanks a lot, yesterday it was a shock for me, today, my thinking cleared, even though I was not sleeping. I will move in a new house two weeks from now and play 180 staring from today

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Originally Posted By: Superstar
No. Hell no.

Nothing good can come of it.

1) If you show up and beat his ass, you go to jail and it just hurts you in the long run.

2) If you show up and DON'T beat his ass, then he knows he is off the hook (so to speak).

Right now as far as he knows there might be a beating waiting for him around every corner. Let him sweat. \:\)



Superstar brings up a good point, Art:

Just because you're not going to confront him, doesn't mean he has to KNOW that you're not going to confront him.

Let him always think that today just MIGHT be the day you meet him and kick his azz, LOL. Just don't.

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Puppy,
I go 180 degrees now. Here is what I wish your advise for. I can ether (i) disapear, so my wife sees me only when I pick up or bring back my daughter or (ii) disappear but first talk to her try to make arrangements, explain that I still in love with her and the reason that I disappear is to let her try whether she can live without me. I do not think that I can ask her quit dating for a while but I probably can say that it hurts me and may damage her
What do u think?

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Option 1.

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Option one all the way!!! \:\) Karen


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Ditto on Option 1.


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