1.MY THOUGHTS ARE SO STUPID I CAN'T BELIEVE I'M EVEN WRITING THEM. 2. I wish he would just stand tall and take what he wants for himself and for his family. 3.Does he not see how he hides himself (and consequently me and the baby) in a corner?
First of all your thoughts are not stupid. I believe you are writing them b/c you think and feel them ,,, they are there.
Also if you liked Eckhart Tolle. He is the what ? And Byron Katie Is the how.
I read the New Earth too and could not get how to make it work and when I started using INQUIRY and THE WORK. VOILA ~!~* Magic.. it worked and it fast forwarded my way out of my negative constipated if you will emotions and thoughts.
so I will give you and example. With your first comment about hubby. Very justified. I hate when my H won't Man up either. *yuck*
So here goes~*~ I wish he would just stand tall and take what he wants for himself and for his family.
Is it true? { you then answer the question with a yes or no answer} Yes or no? Can you know it is absolutely true? yes or no?
How do you react when you think this thought?
I get mad. I think he is such a nice guy ...eewh. I want to throw my shoe at him. { write down everything and get as childish as you want to get , do not try to be PC or nice}
Who would you be w/o that thought that he should stand tall and takes what he wants for him and his family?
Calm ? Happy? Who would you be? ~close your eyes and picture who you would be.
Then
Quote:
After you've investigated your statement with the four questions, you're ready to turn it around (the concept you are questioning).
Each turnaround is an opportunity to experience the opposite of your original statement and see what you and the person you've judged have in common.
A statement can be turned around to the opposite, to the other, and to the self (and sometimes to "my thinking," wherever that applies). Find a minimum of three genuine examples in your life where each turnaround is true.
For example, "Paul doesn't understand me" can be turned around to "Paul does understand me." Another turnaround is "I don't understand Paul." A third is "I don't understand myself."
Be creative with the turnarounds. They are revelations, showing you previously unseen aspects of yourself reflected back through others. Once you've found a turnaround, go inside and let yourself feel it. Find a minimum of three genuine examples where the turnaround is true in your life.
As I began living my turnarounds, I noticed that I was everything I called you. You were merely my projection. Now, instead of trying to change the world around me (this didn't work, but only for 43 years), I can put the thoughts on paper, investigate them, turn them around, and find that I am the very thing I thought you were. In the moment I see you as selfish, I am selfish (deciding how you should be). In the moment I see you as unkind, I am unkind. If I believe you should stop waging war, I am waging war on you in my mind.
The turnarounds are your prescription for happiness. Live the medicine you have been prescribing for others. The world is waiting for just one person to live it. You're the one.
*From Byron Katie The Work Website*
Now turn it around Lucky. I wish *I* would just stand tall and take what *I* wants for *MYSELF* and for *MY* family.
I am new to this so I must admit I have a hard time with turn arounds at times. Plus this is your "work" not mine so that may also have something to do with it?
You can use this or you can say I am silly and I must have bumped my head this morning or fallen down a steep flight of stairs. I will still love you. But once again if you liked the whole New Earth or Power of now stuff you will love this. Well that is my opinion . At any rate. Try it let me know. Lil is really good at helping if you are stuck. Ali
