the sooner you know, the better. For ALL concerned. Just mho. Besides, wouldn't it be great if you were "wrong" and he chose family?
It was the ONLY thing that ever got thru to my dad...losing all of us and not being able to blame my mom for "Brainwashing" us...
ME: "No dad, I was there for the Saturday night crazies and it was all you and your beers and wine. Don't know if you forgot them b/c of the alcohol or if you are in denial, and blocked it out, but I saw what I saw..."
A week later he was back in AA and taking it seriously. I'm one of 9 kids with whom he had similar conversations after my mother left him. I know none of those conversations would have happened if she had not left him.
That was my experience as a child. I'm not saying either way what you need to do. Besides, I get the feeling you'll find your way just fine thank you!
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