PM, good attitude. I do not want to be your aunt but like you I hate to give up.
In my case being in my 50s it really is daunting trying to start over. Not like I feel my life is over but at this point in my life I do not think I would have patience for another R. Just my feelings.
I knew my H (not this fog babble one), we just drifted and I never saw it coming.
Think it is so sad that D and H did not connect on camping trip. It is the fog. You want to tap on their head and ask "is anyone home". I see my H in meetings and he is totally out of it. That is why I believe these OW are addictions. They cannot function. H had such an opportunity to create a memory with D and sadly he retreated into his own world.
My H has not seen D since Dec. What did he miss -- seeing her for homecoming dance, sweetheart dance, her making her first goal at school, EVERYTHING. The smiles, the tears, the laughter. That as mothers we struggle with. How could they let that go and trade down to the OW.
We will know if and when to drop the rope. Has your H filed for D or are you just living apart? k
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
