What got him wanting to do this halfway stuff anyhow? Is he getting tired of driving to get his kids? That I believe is called consequences. If you can't do it right now you can't. His choices are making you move as well. Have you even found a place?
Hugs. kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
No, I'm looking for a cheap place but safe and apparently those 2 don't exist around here!!! Had the afterschool program today and volunteered at the Food Bank they have also with the kids. Then home to finish packing up the kids. H didn't grab their jackets so I ran them out to them with a minute to spare before rehearsal.
Had so much fun tonight. Saw old friends and made some new ones. Theatre people are the best! Met the stage manager tonight and he has 5 kids, and he is on his 2nd marriage--his 1st wife cheated on him. Weird how I meet so many people who seem so happy with their 2nd spouses after going through the same stuff we are. Makes me hopeful! He gave me his card to call if I ever need to talk! Isn't that sweet??? Karen
I just got back from the movies with a girlfriend. Went to see "he's just not into you". It was good but yeah the infidelity sequence was hard to watch. I vented to my friend about the whole situation. Just the new stuff, she has heard the other stuff before.
But at the end, I said it really isn't about him anymore. It is about me and the kids.
Kids all went to FMIL for an early birthday and skank was there. S16 explained to both of them why he doesn't like the situation was about to explain ex's past to her when ex cut him off. Guess he doesn't want miss wonderful to know that he is a serial cheater!. Sorry for the hijack.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Karen glad you got out, sounds like you had some fun. I think its really nice of you to even consider meeting him 1/2 way when it was his choice to move elsewhere. Do only what you can do comfortably and let him figure out the rest. YPs and MPs. Your Problems and My Problems....don't let Hs(YP) become your(MP). I preach this to my kids and friends. I think anyone that has been through what the people on these boards (infidelity, etc...) have, they are much more careful the 2nd time around.
Kat shes a skank and gets what she deserves. I bet it was akward!
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Kids all went to FMIL for an early birthday and skank was there. S16 explained to both of them why he doesn't like the situation was about to explain ex's past to her when ex cut him off. Guess he doesn't want miss wonderful to know that he is a serial cheater!. kat
Your kids are so awesome!!! Wish I could have been there! First day on the "doorhanging" job today. I walked for 4 hours straight this am!!! And there are tons of steps and hills in my town, so I am feeling muscles right now I didn't know were there. And I have to do it again tomorrow so hopefully will be recovered at least partially by then. This will get me in shape if I can survive it!!!
My L's office called me 5 minutes into my new job. H's L filed a motion trying to get the judge to order educational & psych testing on the kids so the assessor can evaluate whether public school would be a good placement for them. I've talked to 2 testers they've set up now and they both said they can't do that; they just evaluate where the child is but can't recommend what kind of schooling would be appropriate vs. another. My H had said once that homeschooling should have cured them by now, as if any kind of school can cure autism and dyslexia. I don't thinking hsing or public school can do that!!! So I have to talk to the psych and confirm what she said and my L will have her testify she says. I'm so sick of this legal stuff!!! Karen
Karen, You are correct that the psych examiners will only identify handicapping conditions and academic levels and not recommend educational settings. There is a phrase in the report that always says, "In the opinion of this examiner, test results indicate a possible disability in the area of.... Left unaddressed, failure in the school setting could become more and more pervasive. Therefore, appropriate remedial intervention is suggestedd by the most comprehensive methods available, while in the least restrictive setting possible.
Here is the part you will want to pay attention to--- Final determination of a Primary Disability and the programming services this student may receive are the responsibility of the Evaluaion Committee (in a public school setting this often includes, but not limited to, parents, regular ed teacher, special ed teacher, counselor, principal, and special education supervisor.The psychological examiner does not attend these meetings, they only submit their reports). It is recommended that the committee review test results, educational history, medical history, and social history of this student before making a final decision.
I hope this may help you some. Email me or message me on FB if you have any questions that maybe I can help you with. Just let me know if you leave me message on FB, I don't always check it.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
You would have really appreciated the workshops that they just held here for parents with AS children and ASD children. Coaching sessions for working with schools and other agency officials, for creating and developing IEP's and other measures. (I wish I could have gone myself, but work got in the way this year.) I don't know about where you're at but some states and some school districts really do have a lot of great resources, even for support of public education of these kids.
NC, yeah, FL doesn't tend to be a good public school place at least around my area although I know it's better in some cities, I'm thinking b/c we don't have a state income tax. They do have a charter school for AS kids in south FL and if I have to put the kids into public school, court-ordered, I would prob. try to put them there. They don't have special ed here in our area, at least not when we tried to get it for S15, suggested I tutor him most of his subjects and get private help (Lindamood-Bell) and lately the paper every day says they've had huge budget cuts in the ps system which is a shame.
I've got blisters on my blisters today. I did another 4 hours of walking yesterday and I'm toast. I keep myself motivated by thinking about how I'm getting in shape and the paycheck, and the weather has been gorgeous the last 2 days. I get a break today, and I think I really need one.
Kids are in Daytona for Bike Week with H, and they're going to get back sometime Sunday. I miss them, but I've been so tired, I'm hoping my energy comes back by then!!! I actually have been checking out places around town as I work, there are some cute little houses if I can get one, and I'm going to call the mortgage company today and see what they say. So cross your fingers or say a prayer or something. Thanks!!! Karen
Who takes their kids to Bike Week?? When I think of Bike Week, I think of comely biker babes flashing their melons at the "produce stands" along Hwy 40 . . .
He gave me his card to call if I ever need to talk! Isn't that sweet??? Karen