Stage 5, Acceptance, II

[faithisbelieving]

Thanks all. I think my STBXW is reverting back to her 'bad days' now that she knows that she will not lose the kids. My daughter brought home her winter funpack from school and I don't think she did anything with her.

My sister told me that...the position my W signed up for with the PTA, nutrition committee...is now vacant and they are advertising for a member.

The den mother emailed me and told me that she is relying on me to get the message to her about meetings and is 'not going to text her anymore'.

I found a folded piece of paper on the floor in the family room the other day. One one side were those calorie counts she used to keep. The total was the minimal needed or what we call in medicine the BEE or basal energy expenditure. Recall that my W is a rail. I can't see how she can't be in negative nitrogen balance. On the other side was a 'to-do' list:

• send tax letter to L
• pay store credit card bill
• work out
• go tanning

Yesterday:
Me: D5, aren't you going to finish your breakfast (french toast sticks uneaten with one with a bite in it)
D5: No daddy....I tasted them and I don't like them.
Me: Well..then..what do you want?
D5: Fruitloops

I bring the plate over to the sink.

W: You should encourage her to eat that. It's a waste of food.
Me: She doesn't like it.
W: You should not be so easy and encourage her to eat it.
Me: XXX..she said she doesn't like it..she tasted it and won't eat it.
W: THAT'S MY BITE. I TASTED IT.

W takes the plate back to D5. D5 almost cries and keeps telling her that she bit it too and didn't like it.

I brought Fruitloops over to D5.

W: (raising her voice) YOU'RE UNDERMINING ME AS A PARENT.

I said nothing. I believe she is undermining HERSELF...as a parent.

Just journalling. I'm having a rough inner backslide this week....I had a D talk with them the other night. They brought it up and it was unavoidable. To follow.
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