Mindblank #2 - "Stuck as friends..."

[mindfull]

Good Lord, AJ. I like your idea, but is that why such a big display of batteries in the store? LOL

[mindfull]

FML

[Sam1007]

Was checking in on you! What's FML?

[AJM]

Usually that's F*** my life.

MB, how's things? I'm sorry to not be around as much lately. I am still hopeful for you.

I'm sending you good vibes!!!! Wait! Not like THAT - that would be inappropriate (hope that made you laugh).

AJ

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

I'm sending you good vibes!!!! Wait! Not like THAT - that would be inappropriate (hope that made you laugh).

AJ

Oh, and like we are NEVER inappropriate around here! LOL

Living God's blessinGs with grace and dignity~
SMW

[ernest88]

FML

if this means

Usually that's F*** my life.

then I can see why you are where you are and I'll be quite blunt..your sitch will not improve..

because FML..is a pity party..I'm sorry but it is...

I have a friend here who SMW knows well...if you knew his sitch..if you had any clue what his life was....then you would truly know FML...and he has been doing this for a year...ONE YEAR and is nowhere near finished yet..if what you post is truly your sitch..then IMHO you have it made...you have no papers filed..you have a friendship with your spouse...you are in the same house.....a lot of us don't have that....it could be much worse..

lets' see...you could be

1. in separate houses
2. your H could have an OW
3. you could be in the throws of bankruptcy
4. you could have D papers in hand

you have none of that.....

your attitude will carry you and will make your sitch...your husband can detect FML..a country mile away..he can detect it in your voice when you are on the phone with him ..I guarentee it..he can detect it in an email, a letter..he can detect it when you fart..

Positive is the only way to be...even if it's an act...

Positive can change your life...it changed mine..

[Sam1007]

Positive is the only way to be...even if it's an act...

Even if it is an act at first, it will become normal over time. You have to start somewhere! Your H has to feel that you can be happy with or without him, you don't need him for that!

[mindfull]

Guys (and SMW):

My H NEVER sees the FML attitute, doesn't hear it in my voice, etc...

This board is a place to release that attitude.

I'm simply tired of living without being desired. I'm simply tired of living together "for the kids," which is not what he has said, but is, basically, doing... even though it's confusing because he still wants to do some stuff "together." I'm simply tired of tears coming every day.

That's all.

I know I've only been DB'ing since November, and yes, I've had success, BUT, I've been dealing with the bomb about 15 months.

So, when I say FML... I truly need a place to complain.

[AJM]

..And that is EXACTLY how I took it. Please continue to do so. This is a great place to complain although you're welcome to complain directly as well. I'm a good ear. I like to hear you talk even if you sometimes don't feel like posting. Which I also feel like I understand - it can be painful to relive that via telling about it.

If you can, please do continue to post and complain and laugh. I'll be looking forward to it. I won't be around as much for a while, but I'll check in on you anyway. I am still rooting for you. I know you're making great progress both personally and in your marriage even if it doesn't always feel like it's enough or that it is fast enough. I can tell from your posts that you're progressing and I think you should stay the course for a while and consider IC for your self - just for the peace of mind.

Take care,
AJ

[ernest88]

My H NEVER sees the FML attitute, doesn't hear it in my voice, etc...

I understand why you think this....If you are on here posting FML..then I guarentee he can detect it..I know this from personal experience and from hanging here on this board for over a year. The only time it can't be detected is if you truly don't think FML or you're an Oscar winning actress .

See thing is..A WAS can detect it..you really want to mind F**K a walk away..then you become the happiest person on the planet..you get a life beyond belief, you detach...then see what happens...I bet he gets closer to you...I bet good things will happen..

of course all that goes against our "human" nature...we are a pleady, bitchy, whiney..bunch..If you were like that when you and your husband first met, would he have asked for you to marry him?? Nah...probably not...ya have to get back to what you were before "Married Life" F**ked it all up.

I'm simply tired of living without being desired. I'm simply tired of living together "for the kids," which is not what he has said, but is, basically, doing... even though it's confusing because he still wants to do some stuff "together." I'm simply tired of tears coming every day.

then GAL..you GAL..GAL like a Mo' Fo' then you ain't got time to cry..also...if you exercise as part of GAL..I can Guarentee that that trip you made to Victoria Secrets a while back..will not go unnoticed