Over the Shock - Detaching and GALing

[Thinker]

I am actually a bit stuck in this general situation. I understand my W's emotions and feelings about SIL and the accident, and agree with her completely that leaving him on the counter was egregious and unforgivable. I have never disagreed with her whenever she has said things to this effect.

At the same time, I can't disown my sister for what was an accident (a stupid, unbelievable thing to do, but still an accident).

So I have to either reject my sister and turn down her offer (which was kind of a peace offering to me and a good way for me to get out and do something I enjoy), or hurt my W by spending time with my Sister.