Over the Shock - Detaching and GALing

[Thinker]

I think that in my mind, this last discussion with my W, which was really very low key and in which she clearly stated that she "needs space" and "Not to be smothered" gives me the mental permission I need (from myself) to stay detached.

Dr. Hemlock
To me, loving detachment means:

- Not planning dates
- No R discussions
- Not initiating any physical affection - hugs, snuggling, etc
- No ML
- Not questioning her about her schedule, whereabouts, etc

- but -

- Staying friendly and upbeat. I do still enjoy her company.
- Continuing to eat dinner together in the evenings
- Continuing to help her out with things / run errunds / do my full load of chores, etc. (She has continued to do this stuff for me as well.)
- Continuing with small friendly gestures - bringing her a cup of coffee if I get one for myself, etc. (She has continued to do the same thing for me.)
- Being cheerful and happy if and when we go out as a couple (mutual friends houses, etc)
- Planning and following through on fun family activities - bike rides, etc.
- Complimenting her on her clothes, etc.