Just keep swimming...PH #5

[pearlharbr]

I can't remember: was there any prior infidelity with him, either with you or a previous relationship of his?

Not that I am aware of. Before this happened I would have told you no way, but now...

I just think he's a WEAK guy, and at this age, tigers rarely change their stripes too much.

What keeps going through my mind is "Once a cheater, always a cheater." I have a male friend from high school who is a serial cheater. He cheated on his hs/college gf with the woman he eventually married. He cheated on her while they were dating long distance and then eventually cheated on her when they were married with woman who is now wife #2. [I should clarify that I'm no longer friends with him. I became friends with his first wife and picked her in the divorce. After my sitch started I realized I couldn't have any contact with him anymore.]

I don't want to think xBF is like this, but who knows? This could be the beginning or just the first time I found out. I'd like to think it was the only time because we were pretty tight before and spent all our time together. But he did travel a fair amount for work. My fear is this doubt is going to plague me forever. I don't want to live like that.

Funny thing: my mom never gave me a lot of advice growing up, but I distinctly remember her turning to me and saying, "Never marry a man who leaves his wife for you. He will just as easily leave you for the next one." Guess OW's mom never told her that. (I've met her parents, they are nice people. Where did they go wrong?)