I'm so sorry to hear how much pain you are going through right now. The worst part is what is happening to the kids. We, as adults understand and can deal, but I get royally pi$$ed about the kids, because they don't understand. And I'm so sorry that you are picking up the pieces. That is one thing I can't relate to, but please know my prayers are for you.
I agree with pearl that you need to try to GAL. Can you bring the kids to a drop in daycare or share time with a friend? Does your H see them at all? Can you arrange for visitation times with him so you can do your own thing?
Maybe you are at a point that you need to act "as if" you are officially separated and H will have to face the consequences of that.
Whatever you do, please don't stop posting. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
