We had a brief R discussion this evening. First one in a long time.
I started it by asking her about her Mom and some of the other stressful stuff in her life. I then said that I wished there were some way to just put the R stress on hold for a while so she could just focus on her mom, etc. and asked if it would help if we formally agreed not to talk about the R for a while.
She said "Thats OK, its not like we are talking about it anyway." then said "I don't really have anything to say about it, do you?"
After a pause, I replied that I actually do have a 2 things to say, and told her that "First, I have recently been able to see a lot of our past through her eyes, and that I am sorry" and "Second, I am OK not talking about the past few months and about the R in general and just living day to day" and that "the only thing I would like to talk about in general is if there are things we can do to take the stress out of the day to day R we have right now."
She didn't respond for a while, and then said that the only thing she needs right now is space.
We ended the discussion there.
I am ok with space.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
