I'll reverse reply again. DanceQueen -- no she didn't witness it. I told her about it and the action I took. I suppose it surely had an effect. But she demeans the action I took in a way -- you "only" went to counseling because of the kids, not because I asked you to. My best friend says that shouldn't matter -- the point is that I saw something needed to change and changed it, but she seems to think that the reason is what matters.
LuckyGirl: My best attribute? I looked at Match.com today and thought, "Jiminy -- how could I ever deal with this??" I'm smart -- damned smart and quick-witted. People think I'm funny. I'm good to people generally. No one ever questions my parenting and most admire it. I'm fair-to-partly-sunny in the boudoir, I suppose.
What do I need to work on? Calmness. (Doing that) Being present (doing that). Patience -- hey look! something shiny! Openness (starting that road). Listening (Much better in past 12 mos). Skills in the boudoir (would have worked on it, but....).
