In desperate need of advice, separation looming!

[AnotherNightmare]

The general opinion on the board is that the one who wants the separation should be the one moving out. So I probably would not move out in your situation. I would not even move out of the bedroom.

There are ways to give her space in a lot of other ways. Let her initiate conversations, no R talk, do your own thing at night, spend time with the kids, allow her to go out, go out yourself etc

Do you want to move out? How would that make you feel better?