Ali and DQ: Make up right now. I can't have my girls fight. No way. We are a united force in search of true love. United we stand, divided we fall!
Ali: OMG. Your passion and pain ring loud and clear. I think you were brought to all of us so that we can see the torment that our LD spouses might be feeling. Even if they look like they don't care on the outside. When HDs are hurting, it is so much easier to see our own anguish and to think that there is a slight possibility that our LD partners are selfish, lazy, they don't care, they intentionally want to hurt us... When, really, they are just clamming up and feeling inadequate and lower than low.
Cinco: "Maybe it just isn't clear to her what it is I am trying to say." So, I want to be sure I understand. You WANT to say to your W: "Either we achieve x, y, and z in our intimacy or I am going to file for divorce in May." Is that right? If so, and you are truly ready to say it, then you can just say exactly that. Have you said exactly that? I don't think so. That is a real, scaarrrrryyyy boundary. Because then you just might have to do it.
Ali: Upside-down 69??? What the... Can you draw a picture for me? I'm so confused. [trying to stand on my head and figure this out...]
