I agree with Puppy. You are doing the right things.

What is the status of the PA? Still ongoing? Exposed to anyone?

How often do you talk to your W? Who initiates contact?

M43 W45, M17
S9 D6
Bomb: 11/11/08
EA: 10/26-12/31/08 ?
Retrouvaille: 2/13-2/15/09
Healed, but still heading for D
My situation