Please listen to everyone and DO NOT confront him. It will escalate. Before I found DB, I did confront OW. And you know what, I looked stupid and weak and my H took her side. He said I was picking on her. Your wife will take his side and it will only make you feel even worse. You may think that she will back you up and it make you feel better, but trust me -- you will end up looking like the trouble maker (at least to her and OM who don't want to face the fact that what they are doing is wrong). I so wish that I didn't confront OW when I did. Now I know better. Confrontation may give you an immediate satifaction but it will not last. Please do whatever you can to have self control.
A quote for you: It is not the situation... it's your reaction to the situation.
