Ok on the car front we do it my way, W can see the sense in it now cos it won't stretch my finances, also it will still give us the chance to do things we planned for the future like go to Rome in October. (yes we are still planning for the future).
On the IM'ing I can't snoop on the account but I did see the IM contact on the screen as a work collegue of hers obviouslty she didn't want me to see it and clicked it off the screen. Thats as far as I go on that I haven't got the energy for all that hassle or to discuss further so I'll let it play it self out and take it from there.
Anyway my focus now is on me so I'm gonna concertrate on looking for a new car.
