Oh no, sorry to hear MIL is worse than previously thought. Of course you were upset and W should have told you. Honestly. So getting it off your chest is understandable.

Here's a question: if I respond to xBF's letter of remorse do I start over with the counting? I'm not initiating the convo, but it would be R talk.

I kinda feel like it's rude to not say anything at all, but I will not be rushed into it either. I'm thinking of early next week so I still have the weekend to mull it over.

And on another topic: I've seen a few threads where people are asking for help learning how to detach. It's been a while since most of us hit the detachment point so I don't really remember what worked for people besides NC. Was there anything else specific? I told someone that I'm definitely not the person to offer advice on this because I never "lovingly detached," I only let go when I decided I was done.

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