Question for ALL who Can comment and Help me out!!

[fightingirish]

ok guys and gals. I have a quite detailed question for all of you, and I welcome all comments good and bad.

My best friend from high school called me and told me that her and her H have decided to seperate. I am really upset about it.

She's been married for 8 years and has two children, one is 2 years old one is 5, anyways, she's kinda had some rocky relationships in the past and been a bit flaky about men in general.

She told me that before her first was born she had a EA with someone an her H found out and said to stop or he was going to leave. So she stopped but he was very hurt.

5 years later (now) she is telling me she loves him but isn't in love with him business. there is no abuse, he is completely a great person and father. She says its not him its her. Meanwhile she has a child that is autistic and has behavioral issues. She says when she kisses her H she gets grossed out. Ok, then she says "maybe im in love with someone else" ... Ok now Im freaking out.

Her other comment was she was going to move close so she could share the kids with him, and also asked her h if she changed her mind would her take her back???WTH???? Im thinking she is going to try things with this other guy and if its doesn't work go back to her h (which if he knows what's going on I know he won't take her back)

Anyway, what I said to her was, I don't want to see her throw away 8 years of marriage on a "feeling" she may or may not have. That this is not something to take lightly and that she should at least try to work things out, at least give it chance. I told her I would hate to see her make such a big mistake and not be able to take it back.

So my questions is... what can I do to help her? I think she is being completely selfish, and although she is my best friend, I don't agree with what she could potentially do to her kids especially her special needs child.

ok guys tell me.. anything please!