I understand the impression you got, but from a woman's perspective, which I have, she sat there with you, even if she was giving off the physical signs "don't touch me". She could have very very easily gotten up off the couch, to do anything, go to the bathroom, grab a drink, snack, whatever, etc. She didn't. She sat right there and let you see her crying. If you REALLY didn't want to share with anyone that you are upset, you can leave the room, have your boo-hoo, compose yourself and come back. I know, I've done it. I am ashamed to admit it, (but well for your benefit) I've also pulled that same act with my H that your wife pulled with yours. I did it because I wanted the attention and I may have wanted to make him feel bad because I was feeling bad because of him. I could be completely wrong, but I don't think so. I understand your wife's angst with your sister. I would feel the same way, not to be mean or to hold grudge, but because I would have serious concerns it could happen again. No one wants their babies to be in pain or danger. I know your sister didn't do it on purpose, so, tough spot. I don't think you can interpret moods. If you figure it out, PLEASE let me know so I can figure out my H's. Some days I feel completely confident we're going to create a new relationship together. Other times, I'm still scared. I agree, do your thing. I know it's hard. Boy do I know. And the mirroring the bad things from your marriage while you're really trying to save it.....oh the irony, and again, I understand and have the same concerns. Let me know if you figure that one out too.
