((((((Kalni)))))) I think Sara has it right. He doesn't want to change things, and any suggestion you make is going to be rejected. If he can throw in the excuse that he doesn't want to do anything "illegal" to avoid having to take responsibility it will make him that much happier.
I think the thing you will probably end up doing is pushing for what you want through your lawyer. That is going to work a lot better than trying to talk to your H, I think.
