I'm not okay with it . I'm not ok w/ the affair . I'm not ok with what she did to me on 6/14 . I'm not ok w/ the betrayal , the dishonesy , the lies , etc....
JB, let me ask you a question: Do you want to save this marriage? I mean really? Let me ask another question: Could you get over the affair, the betrayal, the dishonesty, the lies, etc....?
There is the $66,000 question . I do want to save it but.......... I'm not sure I can get over those items . It doesn't matter anyway as she wants the divorce to go through for her own reasons . You're like my personal angel .
It's a southern thing for sure. I know EXACTLY what you mean, but neither one of us can give up hope that there are many many more happy days ahead for both of us.
Anyway, I'm right there with you on the "living in the past thing" -- and my "past" was about 3 weeks ago!
I was never one for inspirational quotes or affirmations or any of that. I do intend to fight, every bit of the way. Last night we had a "heated" R talk after she asked why I was putting her through this (?? putting HER through this ??). I told her -- I'm not in the Secret Service. It's not my job to take a bullet for you.
And then a friend sent me this [site] video clip from the movie "Rocky Balboa," and lo and behold I suddenly have an affirmation for the road ahead: "It ain't about how hard you hit, it's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward -- how much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done."
