SHOULD I CONFRONT OTHER MAN?

[Vdad]

Art,

Stop for a second and breathe.

Second, if you are here to get help then seriously take the advice of people who are advising you here.

I get the whole physical confrontation urge (I had those feelings too), but in the end it won't do any good and there are 100 more to take their place even on the off chance you could break up the A that way. Puppy is right it will only push her to him and you don't wan't that right?

The problem is not with the OM. It's with your W. No matter how hard you might try you can't control her. She is going to do what she will do. Puppy has made a great point to me in the past: A wayward Spouse is a wayward Spouse. Break up one A and another one will probably start.

She has to see YOU differently. That won't happen until YOU do something different. What IS working? From your posts I don't see a whole that is right now.

You need to detach from her. As hard as that may seem if you don't start doing it she will most likely continue on the path she's on. In fact she may never turn away from it and you have to accept that.

Please listen to the folks here if you are serious about doing everything possible to get your wife back. They will help you. If you just want to do what you want to do then this site won't help you much.

Don't confront this guy. He's not the problem. You will be treating the symptoms not the disease.

I wish you well.