Time to let her know how close you are to leaving. Time to lay your cards on the table.
I didn't mention that the D-word came up in the argument. When she talked about my wanting you live now and wanting for us to ML more, she asked what I will do if she can't live up to what I am wanting.
W: "Does that mean getting something else on the side or prostitutes?"
Me: "How would that bring us closer? I want connection with YOU W, not just more sex. I want to *feel* the love between us. If you don't want that with me then that would mean divorce. It's the last thing I want and I don't want it to come to that. If we can't find a way back to each other though, then yes I would leave."
I little while ago I apologized for being so angry yesterday. Also for being so pushy with her. We *have* been doing so much better and then I had to go and screw it all up. Can we just start again and keep working together?
Originally Posted By: DQ
She knows what you want and need and she is trying to be honest and say she doesn't know if she can do it. So essentially she is saying "will you want me even if I can't give you what you are wanting?" YOU are the one who needs to answer that question honestly with yourself, and work through it with her then.
DQ, You are right that she is being honest with me and she is trying. I still find it hard to tell if it is just resistance on her part or her true highest level of desire. I'm not asking for for once or twice a day, I'm asking for once or twice a week.
Maybe I don't know honestly the answer to if I would want her if she can't give me this. It's still a battle within myself that I have to resolve before I will know what I can accept.
