confrontation is too "high school." If you want your wife back; I don't believe confronting the OM is the way. If he's married, you can expose him; but that's a whole other topic to discuss.
Your W will most likely be further pushed away by your confrontation and likely cause her to run faster toward him; as he is the NICE guy at the moment. He says the right things, does the right things, and you're controlling. A confrontation is just verification in her mind of how controlling you are and why she needs to leave you.
DO NOT CONFRONT OM. Set your boundaries within your marriage, not with the OM.
