M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
hey friend, stopping in to check on you. we are both gonna make it thru life. promise. miss you!
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
Man, I think I am going to decline all calls / texts from W soon. 3 today.
1) W M&D are coming to city tomorrow and W wanted to know if ok that she takes the k's for lunch with them tomorrow. I agreed - k's need to see their grandparents even if it is my day.
2) W wants to change weekends at end of minth - her time but she has to be away. Not sure how to approach that one yet.
3) [and this one made me ] Have D11 shopping for a belt. She finds a coat that she says she needs (lighter than a winter coat but heavier than a spring jacket). And it is on sale - 50% off. OK she gets it. Well shortly after getting home, D11 obviously calls W to tell her - D11 is excited. I am shovelling snow off the driverway and D11 says W wants to talk to me. Well I get it - why buy coat, D11 doesn't need it, trying to "buy" kids affection, thought there was no cash (well, none for W from me anyway). WTF????????????
So goes my days. I have to admit that I laughed after #3. I was not good - when she said I was trying to buy the kids, my response was "Just following your lead" and she hung up.
Enjoy life folks. Be the sane one in your life!!!!!!!
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
Man, I think I am going to decline all calls / texts from W soon.
Well, I think you did good letting the kids see their grandparents. Family is important. And I like to think when I'm being flexible about parenting arrangements and weekends when stuff comes up for H, that he'll return the favor for me, and so far he has been flexible also. Hopefully your W will be also.
I don't think your W should be able to say anything to you about buying the coat for your D. I do kind of think you have to be aware of not trying to buy your children's affection--my H buys the kids toys, games, every visit. We don't have room for all of it!!! But your $$$ decisions should be yours. I mean, you shouldn't be judging her like that either. She's not your parent, and barely even your W. Or at least doesn't act it. Next time she calls to witch you out, I think you should call her out on it, and then hang up if she won't stop. I'm sorry, but I'm ending this call b/c this isn't directly re: to the kids or something like that. Karen
I have an issue when they change things but know that it may happen with me too. I gave him yesterday, 7 hours, for the day and a half he will miss next week. Come and go dad.
It is a difficult position to say the least. Just stay the rock and everything will hopefully fall into place.
hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Hi all. Well, it is a new week and thank goodness... or so I thought.
Last week, received an e-mail from MIL and FIL saying they were disappointed with how I was treating their daughter, depriving her of the "lifestyle to which she had become accustomed", etc etc etc. Obviously W's lies have got to them. I tried to have a convo with them but they decided against it. My reply: "I respect your desire to not be involved any further at this time. It is unfortunate, however, that you appear to not have the complete truth or facts."
Was out of house from last Wed to Mon morning - schedule changed a bit to accommodate W's request re last weekend of the month. So nice to be back with k's today.
Mediation continued today with lawyers also present today. W was at her irrational and unreasonable best. Round and round we went with no end in sight so we agreed to each prepare a proposal and go from there. Was nice to have my L see W's performance first hand.
I had mentioned before about the newer, larger vehicle that I wanted to stay at the house for use by whomever has he kids. Still hasn't happened so we brought it up again today. Why do I need it W asks. Again I mention that other vehicle only has 4 extra seats so if k's want to bring friends, limited to what we can do. W's reply contained following: * maybe you should learn to say no to the kids (AMAZING!!!) * I have already given up so much, why should I. I sleep in the basement on a sofabed when I am in the house. [I asked W why because when I am not in house bedroom is free anyway. Her reply was I am not sleeping in there - you don't even change the sheets. When I said actually I wash them each time I am there, she said, and yes this is a quote, "YOUR MOM COMES TO WASH THEM FOR YOU."]
So you can see this is going nowhere. Here I sit. W still thinks I am hiding money and is demanding I pay for everything.
Anyway, let's see what this week brings.
On another note, I personally am doing much better. Cannot sleep tonight for some reason BUT have been getting out to different things, going out with friends, enjoying the kids and just enjoying life. Doing things I want to do for me.
Day by day...
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
{{{{Lost}}}}} blah to the MIL and FIL..it's a very tough spot for you to be in with that kind of crud going on and I hate it for you
Glad you are starting your time with the kids I know that will be SO good!! ENJOY!!
Lost..I'm so glad you are getting out and starting to enjoy LIFE again no matter what crap your W is trying to throw at you! The stuff she seems to do and say is amazing to me, but I'm sure truly unbelieveable (or not at this point) to you my friend!! {{{Lost}}}} YOU deserve some happiness so I'm glad you are going out and finding it
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
] Have D11 shopping for a belt. She finds a coat that she says she needs (lighter than a winter coat but heavier than a spring jacket). And it is on sale - 50% off. OK she gets it. Well shortly after getting home, D11 obviously calls W to tell her - D11 is excited. I am shovelling snow off the driverway and D11 says W wants to talk to me. Well I get it - why buy coat, D11 doesn't need it, trying to "buy" kids affection, thought there was no cash (well, none for W from me anyway). WTF????????????
Obviously W's lies have got to them. I tried to have a convo with them but they decided against it. My reply: "I respect your desire to not be involved any further at this time. It is unfortunate, however, that you appear to not have the complete truth or facts."
I know that will be SO good!! ENJOY!!