Bagheera said: "With the right man, and in the right circumstances, women can thoroughly enjoy being "ravished" in an aggressive and passionate manner: a "hard" approach, if you will. As the man, YOU will have to take the lead, and the risk, in learning what approach works best *for the both of you* and at what times."
This is totally true, I can say by personal experience....HOWEVER, even though my man and I have a safe and happy enough sex life to the extent that he is basically allowed to sexually touch me anytime, any place (and he takes advantage of that right all the time, because he earned it)....on the other hand, he's still not allowed to just zone on in my tummy. He doesn't like that fact, because he wants access to my entire body at all times, but its the one area where I draw the line, because it turns ME OFF for him to touch my stomach. Once in a while, in the right position, etc...but not to just come up and grab me, no way, off limits. Every other part of my body gets groped by him daily at his whim....and I LOVE IT. Not the tummy though, nope.
He IS allowed to touch my waist however. So guys, if you can figure out the difference between touching her waist and touching her tummy, you will get as close as you can get, I think.
