Well hun, this is still salvagable, but to me it just still screams out the same thing I have always been saying.....time for a talk. Time to let her know how close you are to leaving. Time to lay your cards on the table. Time to find a counselor, even if just for you not both of you.
She did tell you straight up, I just don't think I will ever be able to give you what you are wanting, right? Then please explore that with her. Get her honesty from her. She knows what you want and need and she is trying to be honest and say she doesn't know if she can do it. So essentially she is saying "will you want me even if I can't give you what you are wanting?" YOU are the one who needs to answer that question honestly with yourself, and work through it with her then.
She knows within herself that she doesn't feel the same about sex and about having sex with you that you feel about her and having sex with her. She is trying and has tried to stir it up within herself, but she can't find it any more often than she is already giving you.
This is your answer, dear. This is her highest level of desire she can reach. Please just face this answer and stop trying to change her.
I'm not saying that means leave her, I'm saying it means radical honesty with each other and FIND OUT if there is any hope for more. She will tell you if there is or there isn't.
Why make her unhappy, too? She feels pressured and inadequate, and all the while, she is giving you her best.
If her best isn't good enough for you, you need to be honest enough to say that and just figure out the next steps of what to do.
I am praying so hard for you and I know you are near a break through, one way or the other.
