Thanks, Ladies. This is Connecticut, however, where a loaf of bread costs $3.00! She thinks that NOTHING will change.
She continues to throw stuff at me like "if you want me to keep YOUR children in the house, you'll renegotiate" blah, blah, blahhhhhh.
Using the kids as human shield doesn't work with me anymore, plus the fact that I'm not trying to appease her anymore doesn't hurt either. Remember the days when I sent her $10K a month from Iraq????
None of this was my desire. Sorry, divorce changes a lot. I no longer care if she has to sell the house and move into a rented condo. If she thinks I'll live like a pauper, while she continues to be able to buy $400 skis for the kids...guess what?
From her job she knows the financial impact of divorce. That doesn't mean she doesn't want an ideal outcome for hers.
When I read your posts I hear "Oh, yeah? Take THAT!" when you respond to her requests. As hypocritical as this seems, you can DB your way through divorce. Being conscientious but maintain your stance works in your favor.
W: I can't believe you're going to deprive our children of their home and the stability it signifies by not paying what is(or what I consider to be) fair.
FL: I understand how you can feel this way.
W: Divorce is difficult enough without the kids suffering too. They are the innocent ones in this process.
FL: You are absolutely correct. It is difficult.
W: You realize their standard of living is going to be severely impacted.
FL: Divorce effects everyone.
You have nothing to prove. You love your kids. GET that bigger apartment so you're spending more on your financial affidavit. Live realistically. Otherwise being frugal WILL work against you.
*hugs*
PS.. ask the mediator if the amount recommended changes if you go to a larger apartment that fits the needs of your children.
Yesterday I dropped off D16 at STBX's house. There she was shoveling the front walk in a mink coat(!) while SmarmyLawyerBossScumBagParamour sat inside MY old house making phone calls for his job. What a guy! (I just heard his whiney voice on the phone as I dropped D16s bag in the inside hallway! Fortunately, I did not make face to face contact. I would have asked him how his wife was doin', and if I could shine his wedding ring for him!!!!!! LMAO!)
I agree with Gypsy FL. And please do ask the mediator about you getting a bigger place so your children can be comfortable with you. Please do that. They need a place with you.
Hey mattie, happy (welcome back!), michelle and gyps!
I go to court today. STBX filed a "pendente lite" motion (as opposed to pure, undiluted pendente!!!). She wants more money since I cut her allotment. Whatever.......
That's standard. My lawyer filed the same motion when ex cut back support payments.
Worst case scenario, at least you'll get a tax write off.
Most times the lawyers huddle and come up with something and/or its dismissed.
*hugs*
If you're at the Bridgeport Courthouse, there's a great place called United Roots (140 Fairfield Ave) if you want to pick out unique scents for Gym Lady. I love it and the people are great.
FLTC, how did court go? Hope the judge ruled in your favor!!! I think your wife is greedy....especially in view of the fact that she intitated this whole divorce thing!!!!! (Of course, I show no bias!!!)
