Things have been quiet for the past few days - No R talk, no fights (we never do), but also no real affection. Basically no feedback of any sort. My W was crying quietly last night as she sat next to me watching TV (as far away as she could get on the couch) - "Are you OK?" - - "yes".
She got upset yesterday when I told her I was going to a concert on Saturday with my sister (My sister is a big-time music fan with ties to a lot of bands) and asked "I'm not invited?" When I replied "I didn't think you would be interested, would you like to go?" she just got quiet and said "No"
I am happy with the work that I have been doing and am much happier with my life than I was several months ago. In some ways, however, I feel like we are in a standoff. I have backed off on the relationship (dropped the rope), and my W is unwilling to pick it up (resentful, feeling like that should be my job?, still focused on OM?, still not desiring to be in the R at all?).
I still have the lingering fear that my W will interpret my dropping the R rope as proof that I am not interested in the R (and never have been) and she should just move on.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
