Oh I've been very good about accepting blame for "my part" in the breakdown. It does take two, and I'm not trying to pretend like I didn't play a part. I told her I wish I'd known what to do, I would have taken off a semester of school, I'd have done a lot of things differently if I could.
I told her I didn't support her enough around the house, that our routine basically stayed the same because I thought that would help keeping a routine.
Sure... always willing to say my mea culpas and take blame for my part. I'm not going to take 'all' the blame like she wants, and I don't expect her to take 'all' the blame.
When i speak of what she was doing... I'm really not angry. I'm just pointing out what happened. I'm trying not to be judgmental, I'm just sort of pointing out what occurred.
I did a lot of good things during this period - but those are being ignored. That hurts, but I'm trying to understand that she isn't herself.
So basically I'm just detaching, letting her work it out, and I'm going to see how I feel down the road if/when she decides she made a mistake.
Believe me... there are all kinds of crazy things she was doing I can talk about - but I'm just venting, I'm not focusing on just her contributions.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
