Anyway, the question I'm really pondering right now is if I should tell him the words mean nothing without action or if this is just something he should understand and do (and if he doesn't then that's telling). Not sure.
No. Tell him nothing about what he needs to do. This is something that he should understand. Don't do his work for him.
I would prefer to see you give me the whole letter (book) he wrote to you. It will give me more of the feel of what to do and what he is really thinking. Sometimes what you feel are the highlights are not the whole story. It doesn't matter how long it is because it is more important to know the whole context.
Let me know. This is good. It certainly doesn't surprise me. I have been trying to tell both men and women on this site that standing strong and showing that you will not tolerate sharing with another person works like a charm to get the WS to come back and give you your power and self esteem back.
I will be back to give you some advice on what to say to him in your response. You seem to be in the driver's seat. Don't give that up easily.
