May I ask you a bit about how you and your H met ? You mention that his ex had run him down...were you the ow once ? Maybe it has a lot to do with how and why you first hooked up...
Does your H have kids ? Have they suffered ? Do you or your H have any contact with the ex ?
Anyway, just trying to find some background info, to see if it's helpfull, I hope the pain subsides a bit, I know how horrid it can be....take it all one step at a time and don't try to look too far ahead !
Take care
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus