WTR the car situation Chapter 6 of the book has the answer for me and it basically says don't buy the car to appease W cos in the long run she won't respect me for it, by caving in and not making my own decision. I’m sure I've read something similar in another book and I know somewhere along the line Sandi has told me the same on this board. So as far as I am concerned the big BMW is off the agenda and it's going to be another VW which I can afford.
Another issue now is W is mentioning how much time I spend on the computer, previously I was thinking it was because she wanted us to spend more time together but recently she's mentioned it more cos she started IM'ing someone on the computer and I think she wants me to back off so she can hog the computer.
So for this coming weekend I'll tell W what I am doing about replacing my car, also I'll ask her what her issue is about me being on the computer. If she hasn't anything to hide then she can IM who ever she wants without me taking a step back.
