thanks for your support. I have been having ups and downs. Today I had contact with H...
Saw that H was at the smoke shack, so I went to his desk to bring all of his mail while he was not there. As I went to leave, H shows up and asks to speak to me in the hall. I walk out with him and he asks how D15 is. Tell him I am taking her to C today. H says I want to see her; I said you don't get it; she does not want to see you; you are the problem not the solution. H looked upset and said what can I do to make this right with her. (Has not seen her since Dec). Ok can hear crack of the 2x4s boards...I said, The only thing D wants is for you to come home and even then it will take her a long time to forgive you. (uh oh relation talk - big nono)
For once H did NOT say his usual fog babble stuff. "I will never come home, move on, I don't love you." He actually said NOTHING. I told him I know originally you thought D would be mad but would get over it and be fine but she started off angry and I worry about depression. H actually seems to be listening.
But then I throw a few shots in. (Another nono - talking about Ow) I said I am sure when this started it was very exciting and like an adult Disneyland with plastic boobs on one side and a bottle on another.
When you are with the plastic pinata you don't have to worry about kids being home, (her spawns are out of the house and when they stop with their grandchildren they visit and leave) You can go out when you want, no worries, take off when you want any spur of the moment. For us we had soccer schedules, school work, and we could not be spontaneous and just take off to vegas. H said it was more than that and I said yes but that is why you work at it. I was pushng the envelope but he was pretty quiet.
H then said I have been trying to work on myself, so i asked well how are you doing with the alcohol and H says what do you mean? (Duh) -- Because you are an alcoholic. it was the only time H got annoyed and said ok so you are getting emotional (no I am calling what I see), so that was an LB.
Then H asks me if i got a L yet? Why are you asking? H says well you never responded to the papers from my L. I said you mean OW atty. And H (fog babble back) says I have the best atty. (Well if your L is such a crackerjack then why did he not know that we filed papers on Monday charging H with Adultery) I stayed quiet. I figure each day his L does not find that we filed paperwork it buys us more time! The snail divorce...
It is hard to have NC when you see H at work. But I should not have gotten sucked up into the conversation. bang bang Sound of 2x4 myself.
There is always tomorrow.
It is so good to be able to rant on this board. It is a life saver.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
