I find NC is the best defence ( although h still manages to blame me for so much ). NC allows me not to be mean or to feel like a doormat.
BUT take emotion out of equation and what are you left with ... a H with OW and who kows how long all that will last. a few weeks, months or years meanwhile are you protecting what is rightfully yours and your kids.
Absolutely it is the feeling OW gives that is the rush. This is evident in my case by who he has chosen. She empathisess with him is all he says when anyone asks " What the F*&^ are you doing " so good news to hear that it is only temporary.
